Tuesday, March 15, 2011

The Muse's Mishap

Disclaimer: I know this might offend someone, but in the words of George Eliot, “Excessive literary production is a social offense.” C’est la vie.

I have a bunch of male friends.

Yes, you heard me right; friends WITHOUT benefits, drama, and/or negative intentions. Most, if not all, of them are married, committed, or in some sort of relationship. In the world of “the arts” it is easy to form comradeship with a being much like yourself pre or post their other relationships. Usually the outside woman, also known as significant other, has a SIGNIFICANT problem with this, although the art-fueled-relationship is highly platonic.

Women that land creative men, who aren’t particularly creative themselves, don’t always count when it comes to the perfection of the opposites attract rule. Although the two might be a great fit, jigsaw wise, there will always be a piece of him she will never be able to fully comprehend. Artistically inclined men tend to gravitate towards women in their field OR one dangerously close to it. I.e. A painter and a poet.

That gravitation could be friendly or romantic. Most times, it is NOT the latter. (This is considering we are very stubborn and emotional individuals. I’ve been to a slam where ex-lovers/poets slung prose about their relationships back & forth in each round. Very scary.) If it is the latter, refer to my piece on emotional cheaters.

The non-creative feline recognizes this missing piece and knows that even if she tries to tap into that side, she’ll never be able to fully comprehend it. Thus, his “artistic friend” becomes an immediate threat.

This week, I had a few of my poetry/emcee/writer/etc buddies visit NYC for their spring break. Interested in events that would heighten their craft; they called me for suggestions on where to go. I gave quite a few tours to slams, gatherings, television recordings, and even a fashion show. At the end of the week, I noticed my Facebook was flooded with friend requests. I was quick to press accept, used to new found friends after performances, until I realized that ninety percent of the requests were from the women my visiting friends were dating. I’ve had this happen once or twice, but having nine snoopers come knocking at my door at once was ridiculous!

I am fully aware of the silent and unseen side-eye I receive from the artistic Adonis’ Aphrodite. I’m also aware that you don’t like me, probably never will, despite the fact that I spend very little to no time with the man you love. I’m lastly here to warn you.

You are the muse.

I am the

The motivator, with no alternative intentions, is there to morally support and lend valued criticism. Most motivators are more for creation than the ability of home wrecking. The muse serves as inspiration and confirmation of all things abundant with breathless beauty—well at least to the artist who admires you.

The sad part is, that the muse is unaware she is a muse. This is either because: a) she’s blinded and deafened by the things she thinks she lacks/doesn’t encompass. B) He hasn’t taken the time to tell her—assuming that she already knows.

She will act the fool, ravished by her pointless jealousy, and lessen his creativity and energy to produce. It is rare that an artist will sacrifice his craft for such a never ending plight. In the end, the easily ruffled muse usually becomes the sacrifice; a threat to herself.

Muses, we are all favored in our own endeavors. For the woman who feels as though she has a right to be threatened by the artistic acquaintance, you don’t. Well, most of the time. Besides, we female artists are most likely the muse of some other source of adoration. Poets/Writers/Musicians/Painters/etc need/have love too.




Unknown said...

Love it!

Pino 44 said...

Great post - I think you should start a website about writing.

Kia Shavon said...


Unknown said...

I've never heard it said any better. Creative people work well with other creatives, in many different forms. Great post. xx.

Leslie Colleen said...

Dope words sis. As usual. But here's a question to consider- what happens when the significant other is no longer the muse? The misguided artistic man finds himself inspired anxd drawn by the 'motivator' who herself had no intentions of becomin his centre. What then?

T. ODIS said...

AHHHH!!!!! THIS!!!!!

riva. said...

Thanks everybody! You're awesome for reading!

@Zuri Well that's between the muse and Adonis to decided at that point isn't it? You can be a muse without the romance, can't you?

Unknown said...

i've never been involved with someone like me in that way. someone creative i mean, at least not for an extended time.

wonder what that would be like. do you have any experiences like that?

Leslie Colleen said...

Absolutely! Muses do not have to be romantic partners. But I mean, what happens to the defeated spirit of the significant other? I would think her bitterness might then be more understandable. Yes?

ABIGAIL NY said...

Creative people are definitely diverse ... always renaissance!


riva. said...

@Zuri At that point. Yes. However, Adonis must take responsibility for his actions. Right? Is the muse responsible for his renewed intention?


Militankerous said...

Well said. There have been a couple times that I have found myself in trouble because my girl wasn't the only muse. That is rough. But that's the life of an artist. What about the compound artists like me? There can be different muses for every kind of art I create. @Zuri I couldn't agree more. And @RivaFlowz is right. It would be up to the two actively in the relationship what their status is once they can no longer inspire the same passion in one another.

Militankerous said...

Btw, that's a breathtaking picture of the muse with the artist and his harp. Wow.